Interviews: Can we All Be a Little More Honest?

I’ve spent plenty of time on both sides of the interview table, and if there’s one thing that drives me nuts, it’s the implicit agreement that we will put a sugary spin on everything. The employer will pretend the job is perfect, and the potential employee will pretend he is perfect. Then we will both go home and try to read between the lines.

A Lifehacker article explains how to spot a bad boss through his use of pronouns. The catch: every pronoun is connected to a different negative trait.

There are scores of articles that give (usually bad) advice for employers to help them spot problematic employees.

What a waste of time!

I can’t help thinking, “This could all be avoided if we’d agree to be a little more honest with each other.”

Go ahead—tell me my average work week will be 60 hours. Don’t gloss over that–be honest, and let me decide if I can handle that. We will both be happier in the long run.

On the other side of the coin, employees need to stop answering that their biggest weakness is that “I’m a perfectionist. I’m just too freakin’ perfect, and I have to tone down my perfectionism so that average people can keep up.” 

As a manger, I can’t remember ONCE receiving a truly honest answer to the question about weaknesses. The worst answer I ever got was “I’m probably not tall enough to see over the teller line.” It was the low point of an otherwise wonderful interview.

I did hire her, by the way, but it was her lapse into honestly that won me over. At the beginning of the interview, she admitted that she has 8 children, and that several companies had not wanted to hire her because of it. She explained that her oldest kids babysit her youngest, so she doesn’t have to worry about missing work. In the end, her honesty benefited her: she was turned down by the companies that were not family-friendly, and hired by the one that was.

My biggest flaw is NOT that I am a perfectionist. I am a perfectionist, but for most employers that’s a good thing. 

My biggest flaw is NOT that I have no sense of direction and drive like I’m on fire. Unless you are my neighbor’s mailbox, you probably don’t care about that.

What is my biggest flaw? There are so many, it’s hard to choose. I could list them all here (and I will if you care enough to send me an email), but in a world that expects a BS answer, I’d be unfavorably compared to someone whose “biggest flaw” is that they “care too much about their work”. 

So, here’s my true, but not-very-useful answer: “I’m too honest”.


Google Me: Managing Social Media Presence


Today The Iron Yard (my coding bootcamp) had an awesome guest speaker, John Saddington. His talk was about the importance of branding and managing your social media presence.


My biggest take-away was that I need to not only blog regularly, but blog on a schedule. Blogging helps establish an online reputation that you can control. It gives potential employers more chances to find you, and more information about you. Scheduling time to blog helps keep you from lapsing into a bout of laziness and falling off the radar.


It was really amazing to see John google his own name and come up with —DA TA DA—a million pictures of himself! And none of them were of him puking off the back deck!!

I have to admit that before John’s talk, I thought of my social media / internet presence mostly as a potential hazard to my job search.

I briefly entertained the idea of imploding my social media presence because…well, because people are stupid. I mean, really….how many times do I have to remind people that my GRANDMOTHER is on Facebook, so please don’t tag me in pictures of naked men. Do the right thing, and text them to me instead.

New goal: take control of my online presence.

(Bam! I blogged today.)